Releasing Family Karma
With Thanksgiving only a few days away, many are beginning to feel that familiar angst of the family drama that is sure to ensue from such gatherings. One of the most common themes I see in my practice is the family relationships that seem so entangled that the client has no idea how to move forward. They feel stuck! Family can surely make it feel that way for most of us.
Fortunately, it IS possible to release ourselves from our family karma without having to completely disavow ourselves from them. The first step in this process is identifying what the karmic ties are. The most common ones are poverty, abuse, addiction, abandonment, illness, unfinished business with a loved one lost, violence, and betrayal. Of course, many of us experience more than one or a combination of these issues with family members, causing us anxiety even with just a thought.
For those of us who subsribe to reincarnation, there is a fundamental law that we reincarnate with the same family members until we finally learn the lessons that we come here to learn. Dolores Cannon stated in many of her books, lectures, and classes that, "We accumulate karma by living many, many lifetimes on Earth, often with the same people repeating the same mistakes. This explains the term The Wheel of Karma."
So how do we release these ties that bind us and move forward in a healthy way? It begins with understanding that what we consider "suffering", in whatever form it presents itself with others, is absolutely a lesson we are meant to learn from. If it were easy, it wouldn't be a lesson!
When I first began my journey of releasing my own family karma, I found that doing a meditation with the person in mind was the most helpful for me. Specifically, I used the Hawaiian Ho’oponopono (yes, it's a mouthful for non-Hawaiians!) forgiveness meditation. This is the practice of reconciliation and forgiveness, which is the second step in the process of releasing karma. "Hoʻoponopono" is defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary as:
(a) "To put to rights; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up make orderly or neat, administer, superintend, supervise, manage, edit, work carefully or neatly; to make ready, as canoemen preparing to catch a wave."
(b) "Mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right (hoʻoponopono) through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness."
There are 4 steps to the Ho'oponopono meditation (I used the ho’oponopono as a mantra) where one repeats the words, "I’m sorry...please forgive me...thank you...I love you". My specific process entailed sitting quietly with my eyes closed, visualizing the person sitting in front of me and I would begin by repeatedly saying, "I'm sorry" (even if the person was the offender) until I came to understand why I was sorry. Once I understood why I was saying "I'm sorry", I would move on to "forgive me", followed by "thank you" (for helping me learn this lesson), and finishing with "I love you". I continued this process for every person in my immediate family and then extended it to people outside of my family, until I went through all of the people I felt discord with for whatever suffering I felt. The process took several weeks for me, as I had felt victimized by quite a few people and the experience was very cathartic. I had no idea how much hurt, resentment, animosity, and judgment of both myself and the others I had been holding onto.
While this particular process was the way I cleared and released my own family karma, I understand that it's not for everyone. Fortunately, a Quantum Healing session can provide the same benefits, as well as understanding much more about oneself and the path we are meant to travel in this lifetime. I encourage each of you this holiday season to give the gift of freedom...freedom from suffering for yourself and for those on your karmic wheel. The gift of freedom IS the gift of unconditional love.